I don’t faithfully listen to podcasts or even radio programs, but when I’m in the car I often listen to whatever’s on, and several weeks ago I heard John Rosemond being interviewed on the Dennis Prager show. He was talking about raising children, and I was intrigued by what I was hearing.
I don’t know why I hadn’t heard of him before, but he’s been writing books, giving talks, and counseling parents for over forty years. Dennis said he is considered by many to be the current authority on child- rearing, so I ordered his book. Yes, another book on raising children.
Even before I was a father I read The Christian Family by Larry Christenson. Over the years we’ve read books and watched videos by James Dobson, Kevin Leman, and Tedd Tripp. I don’t remember everything we learned together, but I’m pretty sure I’ve been reading some things I’ve never read before.
Rosemond opens his book with a shocking statement that I referred to in a sermon a couple of weeks ago.
“If asked ‘Why do children, all children, misbehave?’ most psychologists (of which I am one) would employ one or more of the following words or phrases: unresolved issues, anxiety, stress, conflicting messages, cries for help or attention, trauma, post- traumatic, power struggles, chemical imbalances, and genes. Nope. Some of those may help us understand why a four- year-old refuses to obey his parents, but none of those words explains why all children misbehave, and deliberately so. As it turns out, the explanation is simple: children are bad…and the sooner parents understand and accept this, the better for them and the better also for their children.”
He goes on to note that he’s really not saying anything new. What he’s presenting is basically the common sense point of view that was held by most parents prior to the psychological-parenting revolution that swept America in the 1960s and early 1970s. What he’s trying to do is help parents put common sense back into practice.
While you may not choose to follow all his specific suggestions for handling issues such as lying, defiance, tantrums, or refusing to use the potty, I think you’ll find principles in his book that will help you raise The Well- Behaved Child.
I have several copies in the office if you want one.
God Bless, Rick